October 28, 2021

The ‘5 must, 3 no’ rule is for parents


Parents’ education method determines the child’s life in the future, so the following principles are indispensable.

A parent’s education is like building a dam on a river. The purpose of the river does not have big waves when it is out of control, helping children to “flow” further until they can join the big sea. Illustration.

Rule 5 must

1. Must have rules in the family

The child is like a river that always “rushes forward”, what parents should do is direct the flowing river and build a solid dam. The purpose of the river does not have big waves when out of control, helping children to “flow” further until they can join the big sea.

Hence, a parent’s upbringing is like building a dam. Come up with family rules as soon as possible. Do not think that young children can not get used to it, because if you want to control later, it is also impossible to control. It can be difficult to teach children to understand family rules from an early age, but it is impossible not to. These rules contribute to creating a child’s personality in the future, helping him become a civilized, polite and productive person.

2. Must do housework

A child who does not do housework from a young age becomes a lazy worker when he grows up. If parents pamper and act for their children, it not only lowers the happiness index but also favors unhealthy personalities like “big babies” – only those who have grown in appearance substance but spirit is still like a child – appeared.

Good habits must be practiced from an early age. Parents need to let their children practice housework from an early age so that they can take care of themselves and at the same time practice the virtue of hard work. This is beneficial for the child’s later studies, life and work.

3. Must respect elders

People often say “Longevity for the elderly” – it is a sentence that reminds everyone to respect the elders. Parents need to set a rule in the family so that children understand that disrespectful acts of adults are difficult to accept in society.

To do this, it is necessary to start with the respect of the parents. In the process of communication, parents must treat the child as an independent individual, not arbitrarily instruct and scold. Respect for children must start from caring for them, only when they are respected, cared for and loved by others can they respect, care for and love those around them.

4. Must understand selfishness is ungrateful

Parents are willing to spend money for their children, submit to all material conditions when required … very easy to create selfishness for their children. Now children understand that they are the center of the world, whatever they want, others must respond. Over time, children only demand and do not value what others do for them. They become ungrateful and can hardly be filial children when they grow up.

A selfish child will grow up alone, without friends, difficulties in integrating into society … and many other consequences. Most importantly, that child unintentionally denied the love, concern and sharing of the surrounding community.

5. Must understand tears cannot be weapons

In the education of children, parents need to have their own rules, not always compromise. Even though the child cries and eats, parents cannot humble because otherwise the child will judge: “Just crying will achieve everything you want”.

Parents always satisfy what children want, unintentionally forming a false view of discipline and order in the family. Must resolutely refuse unreasonable requests for children to understand the principles of life. After a few repetitions, children understand that unreasonable demands will not achieve their goals. If the parents softly compromise blindly, the child will be more difficult to teach.

Parents need to create chores from early on in order for their children to be able to take care of themselves, and at the same time practice hard work.  Illustration.

Parents need to create chores from early on in order for their children to be able to take care of themselves, and at the same time practice hard work. Illustration.

Rule 3 does not

1. Don’t worry about what your child can do

The famous Ukrainian educator Suhomlinsky once said: “During children’s adulthood, let them try to do what they want to do. Create a free environment for children to develop better”.

If parents want to improve their children’s creativity and self-care, they must first learn how Let the children do what they can, even if they really cause trouble for your parents. But education is such a process, let children do it themselves, learn from their own experiences, learn lessons and grow up on their own.

2. Don’t worry about your child’s choice

In the classic children’s novel “Killing a Mockingbird” by American writer Harper Lee, “When you get old, look back on your life, you will find that going abroad, deciding to start a business, choosing someone Love and marriage are all important changes in life. Adults choose their path and children need to choose. “

Parents should give their children freedom of choice, for example when they are young so they can choose what to wear and what to do. So when they grow up, when faced with choices that can change their destiny, they will know how they should make the right choice.

3. Don’t care about your children’s secrets

The secret is the growth of individual consciousness. For children, secrets are like forming an ego. If parents are discovered to have a secret, parents should feel happy instead of panicking. Having a secret means that the child has an inner world and wants to have an independent space. So, cherish this immature maturity.

Understanding parents really need to communicate well, understand the child’s heart, not pry into their privacy. For each person, secrecy is closely related to responsibility and needs to be carried independently. Thus, having a secret is also a necessary way for children to learn to be independent and mature. Therefore, parents should always allow children to have their own secrets.

Vy Trang (Follow aboluowang)

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